Notes Upon The Wildwind

Each of us has a Core Wound buried deep inside that we keep protected, shielded, hidden — most often from even ourselves.  This “wound” becomes the platform from which we approach all life — and usually happens sometime deep in childhood, often before the age of 5, closer to 2 or 3.

This kind of wound isn’t covered over with a bandage, or wrapped in gauze.  Rather, this kind of wound finds protection behind a brick or block wall that keeps getting added to as we mature and age.

Think of the events in our lives like bricks — ones that continually add to this wall to protect ourselves and — our Core Wound.

The problem occurs when we want to bring something better into our lives — we find ourselves blocked, seemingly unable to move.  We may experience wonderful levels of manifestation, until we come up against something that is tied into our Core Wound.  And then we cannot seemingly get anywhere.  It is not because something blocks our path — it is because of the brick wall that we carry around with us.

Imagine life without this tedious construction always going on just past the periphery of our senses.

This past week I have been witness to the tumbling of my own Berlin wall in ways that I can’t even imagine yet.  But before Monday, October 11, 2010, I didn’t think too much on this Core Wound, even though it’s been there, all along staring me right inside the face.

After a quick session with transformational coach Morgana Rae,  (who is named after the sister of Merlin!) I received insight through her thoughtful guidance into this wound that I had really never looked at.  With just a few deft words, (and a magic wave of her wand), I’ve been pondering what she said since Monday — and today I received a flash of insight that allowed me to try something to bring this wall down and open this wound up to the healing graces of the Universe.

I ripped that bandage off, did a little meditation-visualization magic and voila! I could feel the wall shake loose.  Then later today, I received news of an increase in books sales to a bookstore of 500%.

It’s amazing what a little transformational magic and willingness can do.

Literally in less than half a second.

I can’t wait to see what happens next!

Hug Yourself! Photo courtesy Ms. Lume, Flickr

Working with the law of attraction is an adventure to be sure.  Instead of living life on autopilot and taking what comes, why not try a different tack and you will experience dramatic change in your life.  A majority of the people alive today did not receive what was needed when they were growing up to help them develop an appreciative attitude in their adult years.  If you employ appreciation in your life, for what is in your life, it will bring you whatever it is you are desiring and focusing upon – much quicker.

But because our caretakers lived what they had been taught, they passed on to us the limitations handed down to them.  This has been going on from generation to generation.  These limitations caused us to develop belief systems centered around ideas that we are not worthy of love, abundance, peace, happiness, joy, prosperity, loving relationships, meaningful work or whatever else seems to negatively dominate one’s life.

Learning to love yourself is the basis for accepting anything good in your life.  You can say all the affirmations you want, do the dances, and work through any of your blocks, but if you don’t love yourself FIRST and foremost, the work you are doing will fall on sallow ground.

Learning to love you is the corner set stone and is the foundation for all inner work.  It is the starting point for everything else.  Once you love yourself, you learn to be gentle with yourself and understand that you are perfect in the eyes of the Universe just as you are which allows you to grow
and receive more of the benefits the Universe holds in escrow for you.

Here are ten things you can do that sends the message of love to yourself:

1. Make a list of the ten things you like about yourself.
2. Treat yourself the way you would treat a friend or a lover.
3. Wrap your arms around yourself (in private) and tell yourself out loud, “I love you.”
4. Close your eyes, take deep breaths from your belly, get centered and then visualize yourself as a small child and hug this child close to you as your inner child how much they’re loved and how very special they are.
5. Forgive yourself for all that you “perceive” you have done wrong.
6. Take yourself on a date.  A movie, a drive, the museum, the mountains or to the beach, where ever you’ve want to go.
7. Buy yourself a gift, wrap it up, and put it away for a month and then “surprise yourself” with it.
8. Write yourself a love letter.
9. Do something that is nurturing and comforting to you.  Give yourself permission.
10. Ask yourself what YOU can do to make yourself feel loved.  Write out the question on a piece of paper with your dominant hand and answer with your non-dominant hand.  This shifts you from left to right brain.

The bottom line is if you don’t think you’re worth loving, who from the outside of you can love you?  You need to love yourself first before you can truly receive and enjoy the love from another human being.

Though you may be in a relationship already, loving yourself puts you in a place where you can more easily express love to another person as well as opening yourself up to the bounty of the universe.  When you truly love yourself, you feel really, really good.

When you do not love yourself, you don’t feel good.  For the well-being and abundance of the universe to flow to you, you need to feel good about yourself first.  The Beatles had it right, All You Need Is Love.

Don’t hold back-give it to yourself.  You are most certainly worth it-you’re here aren’t you?